Telephone
At First Glance
Since he is so much in love and a little jealous, to reassure him and also because she has nothing to hide, she lets him see who calls her and read the text messages she receives.
The Reality
"Several times, my partner has mentioned places I've been, even though I'd never told him or anyone else about it. Eventually, I found that he had put a tracking application on my cell phone so that he could keep an eye on my every move. When I discovered the app, I confronted him. He tried to make me believe it was to protect me. He told me I'd consented to it and didn't remember. I began to doubt my memory."
The Signs
Monitoring, spying on conversations and manipulating
are all examples of coercive control
Why is this Coercive Control?
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01
Abuse of trust
He exploits his partner's trust to spy on her conversations, comings, and goings. He has access to her phone, but she doesn't have access to his.
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02
Technological surveillance and invasion of privacy
He uses technological tools to monitor his partner, controlling who calls her and who she texts. These tools also enable him to delete her messages to undermine her or to use geolocation to find out where she is.
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03
Gaslighting
By manipulating his partner, he makes her doubt her perception of reality and her memory. This is known as "gaslighting".
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